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How to suggest cuckolding to your partner (from a woman)
I love this forum, but as a woman some of the posts and advice about how to convince your partner to join in this lifestyle are disrespectful and only focus on his needs. I was in a long term relationship and we enjoyed cuckolding together as part of a fantastic sexual dynamic.
When my partner first suggested it, I was very hesitant and it took a lot of discussions for me to be comfortable with the idea. This coming from a woman who is incredibly sexually open, although my humiliation and denial kinks made me more eager than most. So I wanted to share my views as a woman who eventually came around and loved it. Obviously everyone is different, but this is what made me comfortable enough to want to explore.
-Start with tamer fantasies and role play: Going from vanilla, monogamous sex to a gangbang is just a porn fantasy, and starting by sharing your ultimate cuck goals can be overwhelming. We started with dirty talk about how he wasnβt enough for me, and comparing him to other men while he pleasured me. We discussed outside of the bedroom how much hearing these comparisons turned him on. After we were done playing, he reassured me again and again that he found it very sexy and was enjoying himself.
-Put her sexual needs first: My needs were the focus of our role playing sessions, which allowed me to enjoy the fantasy even more. It became so clear to me that he really did care about my pleasure over his own. Feeling safe and taken care of, but also seeing how much it turned him on to focus on my pleasure, made me much more comfortable as the role play got more intense. This also meant him backing off and not pushing his fantasies on me when I was in the mood for another kind of sex. Knowing we could have any sex I chose made me look forward to our role play sessions more.
-Respectfully discuss next steps: When we moved from role play to the real thing, it was part of a loving discussion outside of the bedroom. He checked in with me about how I was feeling about our role play often, so it didnβt feel weird when he confessed he wanted to move from toys to me really sleeping with another man. We had a specific guy in mind, and that encounter would be within a short timeframe, so he made it very clear that he only wanted it to happen if I was completely ready and comfortable. My pleasure and what I wanted was still our first priority. During this discussion he also asked about my own fantasies for next steps. Donβt force things or sheβll never feel comfortable.
-Adore her before and after: I was nervous ahead of our first time, but he took amazing care of me. We decided things like what lingerie I would wear so it really felt like something that was bringing us closer. After the first time, he made me feel so loved and comfortable, and his desire to hear about it and pleasure me made it special. He even brought me flowers that first time!
